How to be Hopeful in Spite of Obstacles

Hope is characterized by strength and an ability to overcome obstacles. It is believing in yourself and your dreams, no matter what challenges might stand in your way. And there are all kinds of challenges, both big and small. The thing is, they all create stress and stress can lead to feelings of hopelessness – especially if all you feel like you have are challenges and no obvious solutions.

But there is hope to be had, even when you’re feeling hopeless. Check out these helpful tips on how to be hopeful in spite of obstacles… try them out, and get yourself back on track to feeling hopeful.

*Take Care of Yourself

You are your number one priority. Even if you have a family, you can’t be your best for them if you’re not the best you for yourself. You need to focus on your wellness. If you’re not feeling good, it’s going to be hard to be positive about yourself, your life and your future. So make sure you are doing things that keep your mind, body and spirit healthy and happy. Eat well, get enough sleep, exercise and take time to relax. These are the basic rules of wellness.

Have you ever tried meditating? When you let your mind go quiet and block out all stress and negative self-talk, the peace you feel centers your spirit and allows you to focus on your goals and happiness. Positive visualization during meditation helps fuel your goals, offering your clearer insight into a more productive course of action.

*Focus on Appreciation

When you recognize the beauty around you, it makes you appreciate all that you already have that is good. No matter what you are going through, learn to appreciate the little things – from how great your breakfast was, to the smell of the seasons changing, it’s often the little things that make life great. And when you add up all the little things you’re grateful for, you’re feel more hopeful.

*Put a Cap on Negativity

Unfortunately negativity is all around us. We see it on the news and we often hear it in the words we say about ourselves and others. Put a stop to it or learn to focus on it less. You are the sum of your thoughts. You are made of energy, and you get to decide whether that energy is positive or negative. If you’re surrounded by negativity, you’re going to feel drained and discouraged.

*Create Realistic Goals

One of the greatest catalysts to hope is creating goals for yourself and achieving them. Start with a small goal so you can feel the satisfaction of achieving it. And when you do achieve it, sit with the feeling of success for a bit then set a new goal for yourself. This time, make it a little bigger. Everytime you accomplish goal, you’ll get more and more hopeful. You’ll build self-confidence and you’ll realize that your life’s goals are within reach.

*Better, Not Bitter

When it comes to life’s obstacles, you have two choices. You can let them knock you down or you can rise above them. Life is full of disappointments, pain, and loss. But you get to choose whether you want to be better about it all or not. You also get to choose how to react to these obstacles. If you’re jaded (tired, bored or lack of enthusiasm), you can’t invite hope into your life. So let go of the destructive feelings associated with loss and disappointment and instead, open yourself up to positivity and encourage yourself to rise above negativity.

Moreover, every obstacle is an opportunity. Use the obstacle as an opportunity to connect with your inner self. Today, see how many times you can take what would have been an uncomfortable reaction within you and transform it into a blessing for yourself. Set whatever negativity aside, and instead observe what you are feeling, and let those feelings free you. Eventually, in this way, you will discover the blessing or opportunity in what previously you allowed obstacle to harmony in your life. Remind yourself that your circumstances do not make you, they reveal you. You are here, right now, the result of all the previous pictures you have painted for yourself, and you can paint a new ones.

Last but not least, hope is a word that every hurting heart understands. Hope shines brighter than the darkest night. Faith is bigger than the highest mountain and God is greater than any obstacle in one’s path. As Romans 15:13 (KJV) once wrote: “Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost.

It’s when we can’t do anything that God does everything. Faith is simultaneously an exercise of our will and the importation of divine strength. And from that marvelous mixture spring joy and peace and an abundance of hope. As you trust Him, He’ll give you not only joy and peace, but also hope. And faith means being sure of the things we hope for and knowing that something is real even if we do not see it.As Hebrews 11:6 (KJV) says, “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.”

Endurance produces character and character produces hope. With God, there are no accidents – every incident is intended to bring us closer to Him. The scriptures give us patience and encouragement so that we can have hope.

5 Things Happy People Do Differently

Is the secret to Being Happy simpler than you think?

We may not believe it but happiness is a conscious choice that we make and we all have the opportunity to choose to live happy lives. No one can be forced to be happy on a constant basis and material items only provide a fleeting sense of happiness. Happy people choose to be in the here and now and they believe they can feel happy everyday while unhappy people believe that they need to obtain certain material items or levels of achievement to be happy. For example, some unhappy people feel that they will only feel happy in their lives if they lose 20 pounds or win the lottery.

Why wait years from now to be happy when you can have all the happiness you have ever wanted right now? If you want to find out the difference between happy and unhappy people, here are five things happy people do differently:

1. They Make an Effort to Surround Themselves with Positivity

Happy people do not enjoy being around negative people that send out negative vibrations and who deflate their mood. Happy people make a conscious effort to engage with other happy people so they can have healthy and positive friendships and relationships. When happy people hang out with other happy people they rub off on each other.

2. Happy People are Not Jealous People

Happy people do not waste their days being jealous of other people. Happy people have no need to desire everything that someone else has. They are purely content with their own life and who they are. They don’t need to compare their lives to the lives of others because they love the life they live. These happy individuals believe that jealousy is purely a waste of time and energy.

3. Happy People Take Time for Themselves

Happy people know that taking sometime for themselves everyday is imperative for a happy life. Meditation is something that is practiced daily by many happy individuals as it know to reduce anxiety and stress in one’s life. Happy people make sure they put aside 10- to -20 minutes each day for personal time because they know how important it is for stress reduction and general well-being.

4. Happy People Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff

Happy people do not allow minor issues to trouble them to no end. They believe that they can overcome most obstacles that life presents and they do not put themselves through any unwanted stress over issues that can be solved. Small problems stay small and larger issues are manageable.

5. Forgiveness is a Fact of life

Happy people find it easy to forgive and move on. They realize the damage of holding onto anger and how it can effect general health and the quality of life. A happy person knows just how important it is to forgive others for their wrong doings.

Happy people do many things differently and they make sure that they do everything wholeheartedly and with great effort. They are those passionate people who usually have a big smile on their face and who you see living their lives to the fullest everyday

Additionally, the happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect and the secret of being happy is accepting where you are in life and making the most of it. After all, happiness is an inside job and to be happy is a choice, so choose to be happy. Albert Schweitzer put it best, “Our inner happiness depends not on what we experience, but on the degree of our gratitude to God, whatever the experience.” Life is brief and every morning is a miracle…that we are given another chance to live in this world. Let us thank the Lord who lend us a life we just borrowed from Him. Smile and Be Happy!

Personality/Character Traits Worth Adopting

March 01, 2019

By nouveauauplaza

In life, we come across a difficult people, manipulative, negative and toxic one. As humans, we often focus on those who are negative or toxic leaving it difficult to appreciate those who are positive and healthy. Seeking out individuals with healthy, positive traits, however, may naturally help us to stay clear (or at least clearer) of those who are toxic, who zap our energy or who make us feel badly. Further, the more we can surround ourselves with those who are positive and healthy, the more we may model those positive behaviors.

If you really think about it, once in awhile you come across a person who knocks you off your socks… legitimately — maybe they have the best outlook on life, maybe they are really well-off but you would never know it, maybe they make you feel special. There is a good chance that many of these people possess some of that desirable traits, if not all of the traits mentioned below that seem to be the rarest to find in others.

No one is free of flaws and quirks. But there are twelve desirable traits in human beings and worth adopting that attract the right people and circumstances into one’s life. One could say that these are the character traits of highly successful people.

1. Integrity

The true definition of integrity comes from the Latin word integritas, which means “whole” or “intact”. It encumbers all the traits that make a truly “good” person, such as honesty, being incorruptible, straight and morally upright.

A person with integrity won’t lie, will keep their word and won’t screw you over. They won’t go behind your back, bad mouth you, cheat on you, and they adhere to a code of ethics that may make them predictable, but safe to the heart and one’s sanity. No unpleasant surprises come from someone with a high sense of integrity. They follow a code of ethics that tends to be, as the word suggests incorruptible, and they adhere to principles of common decency. C.S. Lewis once said, “Integrity is doing the right thing even if no one is watching.”

2. Selflessness

In a world where many people don’t have the time or the interest in others, selflessness is a quality that seems to be less and less common. People can be selfless in the time they give, the ability to listen, their level of patience and the love that they give. Those who are giving and generous in nature have the power to make others feel loved, appreciated and special. While those who are self-absorbed tend to do the exact opposite.

3. Genuineness

Having the ability to be real, authentic and honest is unique in a world where we put so much emphasis on the superficial. Feeling comfortable in one’s skin and being true to one’s self is one of the most beautiful traits one can possess. To have a REAL relationship with someone requires honesty… it requires hearing and giving input or feedback that may not always be popular… it means loving people for who they really are… deep down… and not for what they appear to be.

4. Sensitivity

So often we are focused on what is important to ourselves that we can forget about those around us. Those who are sensitive are often thoughtful, appreciative and loving, in a way that makes you feel understood, valued and respected. Often, sensitive people are also self-aware, making them mindful of how they impact others with what they do and say.

5. Humility

Whether someone is super-smart, extremely talented or drop-dead gorgeous, there is something extra special about them if they don’t come across as though they know it all the time. Humility in those that possess extraordinary traits make others feel special too.

Humility is not thinking less of ourselves but thinking of ourselves less. We can all afford to say less about ourselves and do more for others.

6. Kindness

Kindness protects you from all kinds of heart-aches. Kindness is like integrity. A person who possess kindness will usually keep your heart safe and your best interests in mind. Their willingness to help others also translates to someone who knows how to put another’s needs ahead of their own when needed. A kind person carries a light, and that light tends to attract other “good” people too.

7. Sense of Humor

Life has ups and downs. There will be good times, bad times, and easy times. Everything is easier if one keeps a sense of humor, or at least surrounds oneself with those who have one. As the old saying goes… laughter is the best medicine and an instant vacation as well.

8. Emotionally Open

No one wants to be with someone who is so closed off that they can’t show the most “normal” emotions. How would someone who has a hard times feeling, or showing feelings relate to you? There is a difference between someone who is so closed off that they just look at you blankly, or worse, scold you or put you down when you’re feeling sad or disappointed, and then there are those who break down as soon as someone looks at them the wrong way. Being able to share one’s heart doesn’t mean that one has to be a weakling or whiner. Someone who can’t feel is usually damaged goods, and lack of depth in emotional matters usually translate into lack of depth in other matters.

9. Self-confidence

A person without self-confidence / self-esteem spells disaster, because they will fail on numerous other “must-haves.” They are usually driven by self-preservation, and will do almost anything to overcome their feelings of inadequacy. This can make them distrusting and possibly even make them into stalkers. Which, in returns, almost always ensures dishonesty, a closed-heart / inability to truly feel and experience love and joy, a lack of integrity and definitely no courage. They’re usually a bucket with a huge hole in the bottom. No matter how much love and care one will pour into them, it will never be enough to make them feel safe, loved or good enough. After all, it’s impossible to love and care for someone who doesn’t love and care for themselves.

10. Generosity

One of the worst people to have in one’s life is a miser. Those who constantly complain about the money they don’t have, especially while spending it on things that doesn’t serve them, are not only annoying, but also no fun to have around. The opposite of generous is selfish, and who wants to be with a selfish person? Being miserly also tends to show individuals who are very preoccupied with material, like superficial things. Combine that with the constant complaint about not having enough, and you’ll get a good picture of how life with someone who can’t be generous looks like.

11. Courageousness

Let’s face it. Who wants to be with a coward? Someone who can’t and won’t stand up for their own beliefs will definitely not stand up for you or anyone else. No courage usually also means no principles, which will make you expendable for the simple reason that a coward will only do the least effort required and will tug tail and run when true work is required.

12. Self-awareness

Self-awareness is the fine middle ground of truly knowing your strengths and weaknesses without being either completely weak and self-loathing. Self-awareness allows us to know when we are way off our rocker. It allows us to see when we are wrong / screwed up and need to possibly adjust or change certain behaviors and patterns. Self-awareness allows us to look in the mirror and see who we really are; not who we think we are or hoped we were. People without self-awareness cannot grow, because they will never learn from past mistakes. They are literally blind, stumbling after what looks and sounds the most appealing. Without self-awareness there is no truth, just illusion; and a perpetual cycle of trying to find what they think will make them happy. If you don’t know who you are, you won’t know what makes you happy. The key to finding one’s own happiness is to be the things that you require and wish for in another.

“Character is like a tree and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing.”

-Abraham Lincoln

Whatever is true,

whatever is noble,

whatever is right,

whatever is pure,

whatever is lovely,

whatever is admirable,

if anything is excellent

or praiseworthy,

think about

such things.

Philippians 4:8

Keep the good going!

Is Love Primal?

February 19, 2019

By nouveauauplaza

Life experiences are very much the same for everyone. After you listen to the same questions over and over again, you begin to recognize the common thread that runs through all of us and how alike we are really at the core.

Whether you are rich and famous, financially stable or secure, struggling with money, no matter what country you are in or from, we all want to love and be loved and find some sort of peace in life. All humans have a need for connectedness and love. Men and women call and obsess about love and romance – and no one is ever too old to want it.

Why love is so important to us. Thought were summed up best in the movie “Practical Magic” when Sandra Bullocks character talks about finding the right person and says, “I just want to be seen… It’s not that she wants someone to see her great hair or face, she wants someone to see her very SOUL and to validate and cherish her energy. That is what we all really want, someone to see us and when they do, still loves us and cherish us anyway.

What is like to love someone…

To love someone is to realize that the other person is not perfect. It is being able to see their bad parts, but put emphasis on the parts you love and gladly accept them for the individual they are.

To love someone is to lay a strong base for your feelings, but leave room for some fluctuation, because to feel exactly the same way all the time would leave no room for growth, experience, and learning.

To love someone is to be strong at accepting new ideas and facts. It is knowing that a person will not stay the same, but also that change happens gradually.

To love someone is the greatest gifts shared between two people are trust and understanding, which come from love. Love is giving one hundred and ten percent of yourself and only wanting something as simple as a smile in return.

To love someone is to be able to see not only with your eyes but with your heart. It is to develop insight into your feelings and the other person’s feelings, and to have a good understanding of your relationship.

To love someone is to give of yourself totally, saying, “Here I am, and all that I am loves you very much.” It is not twisting and turning and changing yourself to gain approval, but it is improving yourself so that your good points catch the other’s attention and overshadow your faults.

Love is the greatest life’s gift.

Anytime is the Perfect Time to Put Love into Words

February 17, 2019

By nouveauauplaza

Sometimes things happen in our lives that cause us to stop and think about the things that really matter and the people who are really important.

Today, take the opportunity to tell someone they are very important to you. Tell them how much strength you get from their support, how much comfort from their caring. Tell them they make a difference in your life that you are grateful for.

The greatest gift you can offer is simply to tell someone that they mean a great deal to you and that your relationship is a treasured gift. Offer to them in return the valuable gift of love that they have so generously given to you.

You could wait until someone’s birthday to send flowers or a gift. You could wait until Christmas to tell them how much they mean to your life. You could look at all the holidays to see which one day would have the most meaning, which day would best express your love…

Or you can realize that your loved ones are special everyday. Tell them how much you love them every time you get the chance. Only then will it come close to equalling the love they bring to your life.

Remember that anytime is the perfect time to put love into words.

What is Love?

February 15, 2019

By nouveauauplaza

Love is beautiful. Love is sharing. Love is the giving and taking two people who feel so deeply about one another. Love is sensitive. Love is overwhelming. Love is the most important emotion one can have. But love is not always simple. Love is not always uncomplicated. Love may not always be easy but it is always more than worthwhile.

Love is being happy for the other person when they are happy; being sad for the person when they are sad; being together in good times and being together in bad times. Love is the source of strength.

Love is being honest with yourself at all times; being honest with the other person at all times telling, listening, respecting the truth and never pretending. Love is the source of reality.

Love is an understanding so complete that you feel as if you are a part of the other person accepting the other person just the way they are and not trying to change them to be something else. Love is the source of unity.

Love is the freedom to pursue your own desires while sharing your experiences with the other person the growth of one individual alongside of and together with the growth of another individual. Love is the source of success.

Love is the excitement of planning things together the excitement of doing things together. Love is the source of the future.

Love is giving and taking in a daily situation being with each other’s needs and desires. Love is the source of sharing.

Love is knowing that the other person will always be with you regardless of what happens missing the other person when they are away but remaining near in heart at all times. Love is the source of security.

Love is the source of life.

An unknown author attempted to define “What is love”, a beautiful description that is based on the passage found in Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians, Chapter thirteen:

“Love is not passion, Love is not pride; Love is a journeying side by side. Not of the breezes, not of the gale; Love is the steady set of the seal. Deeper than ecstasy, sweeter than light, Born in the sunshine, born in the light. Flaming in victory, stronger in loss, Love is a sacrament made for a cross.”

Life can be a perpetual romance. It’s true that life changes, but when two really love each other, that love deepens with the changes of life. It matures and enriches life instead of wearing thin like the rings that first were slipped on a finger. Love must be nurtured and kept alive by acts of kindness and thoughtfulness.

Life is short. Don’t forget to say I love you to the one person in this world you value most. Know the importance of repeating what he or she already knows.

Love Is Everything

February 13, 2019

By nouveauauplaza

“Love is kind. It will help to build someone up and be your most loving best friend”

I may speak in tongues of men or of angels, But if I am without love, I am a sounding gong or a clanging cymbal.

I may have the gift of prophecy, And know every hidden truth; I may have faith strong enough to move mountains; But if I have no love, I am nothing.

Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; Never selfish, not quick to take offense.

There is nothing love cannot face; There is no limit to its faith, its hope, and its endurance. Love will never come to an end. According to Saint Paul 1st Corinthians 13

“Love listens”

Psalms 119:149 says, “Hear my voice according unto thy loving-kindness.”

When we love others, we listen to them. Sure, it takes time and effort to focus on them and hear what they are saying. But when we do, it shows genuine concern and respect.

J.P. McEvoy once said, “When you talk you are only repeating what you already know — but if you listen you may learn something.”

What a boost to your self-esteem to know that the person you’re talking with is truly interested in your thoughts, opinions, and feelings. The give-and-take of communication is the nourishment that causes every relationships to grow and thrive.

When the author of Psalm 119 pleaded, “Hear my voice according unto thy loving-kindness” (verse 149), he was expressing the truth that the God who loves us also listens to us. Listening is a part of loving.

Listening to your significant other, family and loved ones, friends, or a fellow worker may just what that person needs to be encouraged. Go ahead and listen. God Himself shows that love listens.

Never assume that you know what they’re thinking or feeling. Care enough to pay attention. Hear what being said. Don’t simply nod as you mentally formulate your next response. Few compliments surpass the tribute of your genuine interest. Listen, talk, listen, talk, listen, talk.

Listening may be the most loving thing you do today.